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I like, like you

I like, like you: A healthy relationships program for secondary schools

Relationships influence us across our life span and play a crucial role in growth and development. Childhood and early adolescence present a critical opportunity for preventative education that can directly influence a young person’s trajectory into healthier relationships.

‘I like, like you’ (ILLY) is Relationships Australia Victoria’s 4-session primary prevention program for schools, focusing on mental health promotion and embedding a culture of equality and respectful relationships for year 7-10 students.

We have over 75 years’ experience providing family and relationship support across Melbourne and Victoria and offer a range of specialised services to support children, young people and their families.

We’re currently able to offer a limited number of ILLY delivery packages free of charge to secondary schools within Melbourne. Please contact us to discuss how we can support your students’ and curriculum needs.

Why choose us?

  • Program content aligns with the Victorian Government’s Respectful Relationships curriculum
  • Research and evidence-informed content
  • All sessions delivered by qualified and experienced youth mental health professionals
  • Delivered by an organisation with over 75 years’ experience


Delivered over 4, weekly sessions. Please contact us to discuss your school's needs.


Relationships Australia Victoria are currently able to offer a limited number of ILLY delivery packages free of charge to secondary schools within Melbourne and invite you to contact us to discuss how we can support your students’ needs.


Onsite at your school.

Connection to curriculum

ILLY program content aligns with the Victorian Government Department of Education and Training’s Respectful Relationships Curriculum.

Sessions include a diverse range of interactive activities designed to:

  • build students’ social-emotional learning (SEL)
  • strengthen their resilience
  • support them to explore their values and beliefs regarding power and relationships
  • help them develop good communication skills and self-awareness in a safe and supervised environment.

The program runs over 4 sessions, each between 60 and 90 minutes in length, and can be tailored to align with your school’s schedule.

In order to support a whole-of-school approach, we also provide complimentary online teacher and parent information sessions.

All sessions are delivered by qualified facilitators who have experience working with young people.

A snapshot of the program

Session 1 - Healthy relationships

  • How to identify red, orange and green flags
  • Healthy, unhealthy and abusive signs
  • Your needs and values

Session 2 - Gender equality

  • What are gender stereotypes?
  • How can gender stereotypes impact relationships?
  • What helps you be free to be you?

Session 3 - Emotional intelligence

  • What are emotional intelligence skills?
  • How can we learn to manage our emotions?

Session 4 - Effective communication

  • How to handle conflict
  • Online hate and creating a positive online world
  • When a relationship ends

Evaluation and evidence

We continually evaluate and strengthen the evidence base for the ILLY program and adapt to emerging needs. We achieved promising status from the Australian Institute of Family Studies in 2017. Our pre and post evaluation data shows that students who participate in the program demonstrate increased:   

  • understanding of healthy and unhealthy relationships  
  • communication and conflict resolution skills  
  • self-regulation and self-awareness 
  • emotional competence; and  
  • awareness of gender equality.

Student feedback

  • 'I feel more confident to give advice to those that need help in relationships.'
  • 'I will consider other people's feeling and try to better understand their emotions.'
  • 'I will work at respecting boundaries more.'
  • 'I will be able to deal with all my relationships better with the knowledge of my feelings and others.'
  • 'I will look out for toxic relationships and stereotypes.'
  • 'I will be more self-aware and considerate of others.'
  • 'I enjoyed learning better skills to talk to someone if I feel uncomfortable.'

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I like, like you - Upper Primary (ILLY UP): A healthy close relationships program for upper primary schools

ILLY UP is an adaptation of our successful and popular secondary school program, I like, like you.

It utilises a whole-of-school approach to promote the connection between healthy relationships and emotional health and wellbeing. Using a mixture of activities, games, and experiential exercises, the program focuses on the following themes:

  • Me: How to take care of yourself and identify what is a healthy relationship.
  • You: Practicing and learning about the skills and knowledge you need to communicate with people who are close to you.
  • Us: Being able to look after the ‘me’ and the ‘you’ together to create a healthy relationship

This program is designed to help children to develop healthy relationships with their friends, siblings, teachers, neighbours and parents. We believe that relationships involve three key parts…. a ME, a YOU and a US. In order to have a healthy relationship, we believe that all three parts need to be looked after.

Read more about ILLY UP

ILLY for diverse communities and developmental life stages

The ILLY program’s strength lies in its flexibility. Its core idea in respect to the connection between emotional health and healthy relationships can be adapted to many age groups, developmental family stages and communities.

The ILLY program has been adapted for adolescents between 13-18 years and upper primary school students between 9-12 years. ILLY continues to work with First Nations Engagement Specialists and a range of culturally and linguistically diverse individuals and groups to ensure culturally sensitive approaches, practice and engagement with young people. For more information about ILLY, including how programs can be customised to meet the needs of your school and students, please contact us below.


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